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5 Simple Parental Acts That Can Make Your Child’s Day!

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It’s been a season in this blog for writing 5 things I guess! 😀 Today also I’ve come up with another 5 simple yet powerful ways that can make your child’s day.

“PARENTING”, is one of the most important and major responsibility in our lifetime. It is a cave of untold surprises and a place where we learn a lot of life lessons! Every day we march past inside the cave without knowing what was there for us that day! Some days are normal, some days are pleasant and some are totally crazy.

The sad thing is, we often forget we are unique and often compare ourselves with other “so-called” good parents in our point of view and beat ourselves to do more. Also, we get trillion bits of advice from our near and dear ones, judgmental talks and comments about our parenting leave us more frustrated. These negative factors distract us from improving ourselves one step at a time and leave us in chaos.

Other than beating ourselves to do more, we should realize that “We are enough”. Whenever we compare ourselves with another parent, just remember that “We are unique and our needs and skills of our children are unique and it’s a total injustice to our own self to compare with someone who’s not eligible to compare

Whenever you feel the pressure inside, be intentional to take one step at a time. One small act a day can change your parenting little by little and make it manageable and do it with intention in the days to come. Even though there are rough days, you know how to tackle it and you will accept and feel content that it is a part and parcel of your life.

“Giving THE BEST to  our children is, letting them learn all the lessons you learned through your experiences and make them understand the meaning of life.”

In general, children are not complicated as we assume! All they need is our attention, love, and guidance. We need to treat them as a team member in a team, a fellow family member, a friend who needs time to be spent on. Stop thinking that they don’t know anything. When we start focusing on them and treating them with importance, then you can see a “new” person in your child.

The following are the five simple tips that can make your child’s day.

1.    Hug!

A hug is one of the best love languages. Its simple yet powerful. A warm hug is enough to comfort a crying child, enough to make them feel secure and calm them down. It is more than enough  to make our children feel that we are there for them without spitting out a single word.

Researchers say that on an average day, a child needs just 6-9 hugs  to drive their day and feel loved. Buying them costly toys, taking them out for dinner or new places won’t touch them as strong as a hug. It’s a perfect way to show your love and make your child’s day. A little pat on the back, a squeeze in their hands, holding hands when you walk with them are enough to make our kids feel happy and secure.

Giving love won’t come naturally. It’s a part of intentional living. Next time when your kids are getting on your nerves, be courageous to give them a warm hug and ask what’s wrong. You will notice the difference! You come to know that a small hug do wonders other than shouting and punishing them.

If you are a parent who would like to present good things to your children, pamper them with lots of hugs!

2.    Listen

Children talk a lot! They never bother whether we are free or busy, they just come in and start conversations! Usually, when they get excited about seeing something new they hop in and share it, when they get hurt, they come to us crying and share what happened and in short they love to communicate everything they encounter in their daily life.

But for us, listening part is too tough! We often get busy with our works and don’t listen to them. It might be impossible to listen to them always. But, make it as a choice to listen to them at least a few times a day. While listening, do it with your full concentration. Hold all your works, look into their eyes and listen intently to show your love. It will encourage the children to share more and help them to count on you when they are in need. Listening also helps you to know their intentions, interests, fears, concerns, likes, and dislikes.

A few things to keep in mind while listening

  • Try not to interrupt until they finish talking
  • Keep it confidential if they ask you to.
  • Encourage them to share their shortcomings and assure that you won’t yell at them after hearing that.
  • Encourage them to share EVERYTHING they encounter. And ensure them that you believe in them and you will be there for them no matter what. [In a lot of repeated child abuse cases, there are two types 1. The child doesn’t get the space to talk about it to their parents 2. Parents who don’t believe/hear what their child shared! ]

When you start listening to them, you can see a lot of improvement in the parent-child relationship. They seem to be more friendly and sharing than before. So, why don’t we try to listen to our children and make their day?!

3.    Make Conversations

Children have no problem in talking to us. On the other hand, most of the time, we talk to them only to give some advice or instructions. Other than that, we never make more conversations with them. (At least me!

Instead, try making conversations. Ask them about their new findings, how their classes went, who are their friends, do they want to help anyone they know, what are their setbacks and a lot more!

Feel free to share them, your financial situation, share them the responsibilities they have as a family, share them how much their help was appreciated in certain parts.

When you start sharing all these, you can see a new person in your child. They seem to be more understanding, surprisingly, they come and give us ideas, commit themselves in few works and so on.

I have tried sharing my thoughts with my older one and have seen lots of difference in her activities. Even though she needs a lot of reminders, I can see a paradigm shift in my view towards children! Actually, they understand us, when we are willing to tell our shortcomings and explain the real situation.

As they love us intently, they take it to their heart and we can see remarkable changes in them very soon. They seem to be more responsible and friendly after that. That, in turn, increases their confidence as they get to know their importance in their family.

4.    Go Crazy!

Going crazy is the best stress buster for children so as parents! 😉 . A sudden pillow fight, a squeezing game, unexpected splashing water game, singing songs, dancing with kids, jumping in bed, all makes them happier in no time!

We do it a lot at home. Even when they are crying, they can’t resist joining the crazy party. So, all bad moods fly away faster. They will forget all the things that made them feel bad and join the crazy games in no time!

Go crazy at least one time a day and let your children see the child in you and join their hands to celebrate the moment with you!

5.    Give Some “Dedicated” Time

This is mainly for the parents who have more than one child. We often end up in spending time with our younger ones. Elder kids are assumed to be grown ups, once the young ones are born. They are expected to live more responsibly and forgiving. We often fail to see the child in them! The fact is, they also want us to treat them as children, they also need some time to be spent with us.

To tackle with that, we can take them alone for shopping or for a small trip to the juice shop to spend some alone time and share some giggles. Get to know their concerns and ensure that you love them more than anything else. Make them understand that how much you look up to them in every situation and thank them for their understanding and support.

I used to spend time with my older one when my younger one sleeps. We talk lots and it is always enriching the love and understanding between us.

Make sure you give some “alone” time with your children and make them feel special and loved.

So, what’s your idea of making your child’s day?!

 

 

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5 Simple Cooking Tips For A Newbie!

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                    I still remember the days when I started to cook. Whenever I started to cook, I feel the pressure inside and my utmost goal used to be “the dish should be at least eatable rather tasty”! I used to drool over all the complex recipes and spend hours watching all those cookery videos and never got the guts to try it out.
Even if I try out a recipe from the internet, I had difficulty in keeping the ingredients in mind and keep checking my laptop to confirm what ingredient to be added next! Oh! Those days are gone now! But, they stay fresh in my memories! So, this post is for all the newbie’s who has just started to cook without knowing what they are doing! (Just like me! :-D) But, newbie’s cooking doesn’t have to be that daunting task if we have few basic things in mind.
Here are the 5 steps that considerably reduce newbie’s cooking!

1.    Start Small

It’s always wise to start small no matter what work we do as a fresher. Starting small help us to accomplish more and gives a confident that we can do it and can move further forward without more hesitation or procrastination. You can start by just making a cup of coffee or a simple dish that involves just 2-3 ingredients, Do it with an interest and celebrate once you finish it. Keep doing the same thing again and again. You can see the improvement as the days go by.
Starting with very simple recipes that can be completed in lesser time will help you to try more than one dish a day. Soon you will get an idea of what you are doing other than confusing over complex recipes. One simple step a day helps you to try out more recipes in the days to come without breaking your head.

2.    Learn The Magic Of A SHARP Knife!

Yes, sharp knives can do wonders. In my initial days of cooking, I hate the cutting veggies! Oh, how much I hate that cutting part! Some days it is enough to make me depressed. (Okay, I was that much dumb that time!    :-D) It was also time consuming!  One day, my friend suggested buying a new knife (Darn! Why didn’t I get the idea by myself!!!) And that’s where my life totally changed! I felt easier to cut vegetables, especially hard ones like carrots, potatoes. I started to enjoy cutting. It was no longer a time consuming and depressing task for me.
Also, knives need to be sharpened periodically else we will end up in spending more time on that. We can sharpen our knives at home. Check wiki how <http://www.wikihow.com/Sharpen-a-Knife> and know about sharpening your knives at home and enjoy stress-free cutting!

3.    The Beauty Of Cooking In LOW Flame

When I started to cook, I used to cook in high flame in order to finish cooking the dishes in no time. But, I used to end up in burning the dishes and spoil the taste. Sometimes, I have totally spoiled the dish when I tried to cook more than one dish simultaneously.
Later I started to cook in low flame and lids on. It was just fabulous! As I always use lids to close the vessels while cooking, meals get cooked in no time. In addition to that, there was no burning as I was cooking on low flame. In addition, lots of gasoline will get saved if we cook in low flame and lid closed.
We can certainly finish up cooking faster by keeping it in a low flame with lids on than cooking in high flame. Cooking on high flame needs lots of attention, where it is minimal when it comes to low flame. I used to put one dish for cooking on low flame and simultaneously do some other works like washing the dishes or running one load of laundry in the gap. The best part is, we are not standing next to the stove all the time waiting for the meal to get cooked!

4.    Keep Recipes Handy

Oh boy! I have wasted so much time by not having the recipes handy in my earlier days of cooking. I search for a mouth smacking recipe and bookmark it. Next day, I will keep it open on my laptop and start doing it. I keep checking the method/ingredients whenever I get a question. It used to take up a lot of time and eventually made me stop trying out new dishes.
In order to avoid that burnout, you can start with simple recipes with fewer ingredients and I would suggest keeping it handy. It will help a lot not to get distracted and concentrate on what you are doing. Also, getting an idea about the recipe by reading the steps once or twice before trying it  will save loads of time and energy and help you to understand the recipe and know what you are doing other than just following the recipe.

5.    Plan

I keep the best for the last. Planning is the main thing in almost all parts of our life, especially in cooking. It saves a lot of time in cooking. Planning the night before helps you not to panic in the neck of the moment. It helps you to make preparations the previous night. For example, soaking beans the day before helps to cook them in no time, checking the availability of ingredients helps you to change the menu if needed. Planning the previous night helps you to save a bunch of time in the morning and helps you to cook relaxed.

I hope the newbies would have got some idea through this. So, what are your tips for newbies?

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A Simple De-cluttering Tip That Can Save Your Sanity.

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We all enjoy looking at flawless pictures of organized closets, neatly arranged books in the living room, perfectly decorated rooms and fabulously designed bathrooms! We save those in our desktops, download it on our mobile phones, pin it to our Pinterest boards and really wish that someday we should do something to make our home picture perfect. Sometimes, we spend hours together looking at those and choose what fits our home and make a note of it. BUT in reality, all that seem to be an untouchable goal. Our homes are still messy, our interiors seem to be outdated, our furniture seems to be worn out and toys shelf is a total horror!  Even though we go beyond to make our interiors, our home still seems to be messy and overflowing with a lot of “STUFFS”!

So, in short, “STUFFS” are one of the major reasons that make our homes look disgusting. Clutter can be paper clutter, an overflowing amount of dresses, kitchen utensils, kids’ toys, craft items and so on!

On the other side, in reality, we know that we never ever attain the goal of Pinterest perfect homes as those are staged, staged and staged to perfection.

Other than drooling over that perfection, we can take a simple step to make our home a less cluttered one and give it a clean look.

Earlier, I used to spend hours together to clear out my clothes, choose what is needed, what is my favorite and clear out other things to give away. But, that seems to be so time-consuming and I used to end up in clearing out very few items and moreover it takes more time and makes it so hard to de-clutter all the stuff in one go.

Recently, I did something that saved my time and made my wardrobes look clean and neat within minutes.

Here Is What I Did!

I took all the clothes from a particular rack which I felt I am not accessing much and put that in a cardboard box and kept it aside.

You heard me right? “I just cleared out EVERYTHING in that particular rack”. WOW! Now I got a COMPLETELY empty rack and it REALLY felt very good to see an empty rack in my nearly overflowing wardrobe.

After that, all I did was, whenever I wanted something from that particular rack, I searched it from that cardboard box for the next THREE months. And at the end of the third month, I gave away everything that stayed in the cardboard box. AND it was almost ¾ th of the box! By this way, I cleared out ¾ th of my rack without making any great effort to sort out my favorite clothes.

For me, three months was enough to find out my favorite clothes. It can be 6 months or 1 year for others. You can be flexible with the timings. But, this can really help you to get away with any of your clutter.

In your home, the clutter can be in the form of books or craft items or a messy rack in your kitchen. Whatever it might be, all you have to is, just wipe out everything in that particular rack and keep it in a cardboard box. For the next 3 – 6 months, search for items when you need it, from that box other than searching it from the rack.  I’m sure that will take the same time as you search in the rack. BUT, it will help in finding out your “needed” items for your wardrobe/ kitchen /bookshelf /craft items and get rid of the other items without working out much on it.

Hope this helps! What is your effective, time-saving de-cluttering tip?

 

 

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