We all have dreams, quite a LOT of dreams. Everyone’s dream is unique and special. Few follow their dreams and achieve it whilst others keep dreaming and waiting for their moment to pursue them. But in common, most of our goals trackback to materialistic possessions we would like to own. We work hard to get promoted to higher positions, which in turn results in more salary, and that extra money helps us to pursue our needs/wants. But, most of the time, the large part of that extra income is spent to fulfil our wants than just our needs.
The pursuit of fulfilling our wants is quite flashy outside yet dangerous inside. Getting what we need is completely different from getting everything that we want to own. It’s more like eating junk all the time. Eating junk is a pleasure all the time. Who don’t love having French fries, donuts and coke?! 🙂 . Obviously, it will result in serious health issues down the line.
Likewise, getting/buying what all we want gives an immediate pleasure and happiness as soon as we buy those things. But, looking it in a deeper sense, it just adds up stuff in our homes silently. But, it ends up in eating all our time in maintaining and organizing it.
When we give importance to our wants and start filling our homes with those items, then those in turn demands us to give more importance to our stuff: in organizing cleaning and maintaining them other than enjoying our time with our loved ones or pursuing something we love.
At one point of time, instead of owning our stuff our stuff starts owning us. The reality is, we often end up in spending our time in organizing our overflowing wardrobe, wiping up our classy and costly showcase pieces and sorting out our unending mess of our children’s toys.
Even though it’s little tough to practice mindfulness and be content with what we need and to suppress the feeling of getting what all our heart desires, that practice help us to live a life without any stress. So is the saying “Too much of anything is good for nothing.”
How many times we stand before overflowing wardrobe and felt like we don’t have enough *good* dresses to wear! Are we not content with what we have? OR we keep those dresses we don’t love because they are costly? OR someone we love presented that dress? Or we are waiting to wear those after shedding few extra pounds?
On the other hand, what if we have fewer items? Just the items we REALLY love? That pink jacket we love to wear anytime we go out, that comfy jean we wish to wear for almost ALL casual parties? That few party wears that we wish to wear for parties. Imagine having a wardrobe of items that you love most. Imagine having a wardrobe that you can just grab ANY dress and wear because everything is your favourite! In that case even if you have fewer dresses to wear, you will feel content and happy to have those most favourite dresses in your wardrobe. Even it is 5 or 15. How comforting and relieving it is?! At that time we conclude, LESS IS MORE :).
The Pareto principle (commonly called as 80-20 rule), states that for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. To put it simpler words,
“We use only 20% of what we own and another 80% are just sitting idle and unused.”
If we use only 20% of what we own and another 80% are just sitting idle then why we still allow them to waste our space & energy in maintaining them??
Yes, having less is more when we only have the items we love most. More seems to be less when we keep things we don’t like but still keeps it in the name of remembrance/ guilt/ costly/ whatever! When we are surrounded by the things we don’t really like, we never feel content; our hearts desire for more and never get satisfied.
So, let’s be thoughtful in buying new items. ASK few questions BEFORE you buy.
- “Do I really need this? Or just want this as my shopping mind is urging to buy?”
- “How often I’m going to use this? Or I can just borrow/rent it from shop/friends?”
- “Do I have space to store this item?”
Regarding ALL the overloaded things you currently own, start paring down those unwanted stuffs.
- Start one item at a time.
- Examine each and every item.
- Identify the things that you don’t like.
- Donate it or throw it away or pass it on to friends who really need those.
Free yourself from all those clutter that is suppressing you. Start giving your time and energy for the ones whom you love and put your efforts which deserves most.
Do you ever feel stressed out with the extra things you have owned so far? How do you tackle that?